On Being a Parent Without a Holiday

Happy, uh, Whatever You Are Day? Ah, springtime! Holidays, anniversaries, and all sorts of reasons for celebrations! Graduations. Weddings. Mother’s Day. Father’s Day. But No Day For Me And no day for thousands of other men and women like me. I am a Transwoman. I have two daughters and three grandsons. One of my grandsons … Read more

Happy Father’s Day?

Today is Father’s Day, with all of the commercial hoopla that usually accompanies American holidays. Love your father? Prove it by spending money. Publish your advertising saying “Happy Father’s Day! Come spend money with us!” Here’s the thing: for many of us, there is no “happy” in Father’s Day. I lost my father when he … Read more

Rest in Power

Never forget their names: Edward Sotomayor Jr., 34 years oldStanley Almodovar III, 23 years oldLuis Omar Ocasio-Capo, 20 years oldJuan Ramon Guerrero, 22 years oldEric Ivan Ortiz-Rivera, 36 years oldPeter O. Gonzalez-Cruz, 22 years oldLuis S. Vielma, 22 years oldKimberly Morris, 37 years oldEddie Jamoldroy Justice, 30 years oldDarryl Roman Burt II, 29 years oldDeonka … Read more

On Orlando, And Other Atrocities

Today’s post is something friend Sarah posted on Facebook. It speaks for itself. “My mother texted me this morning. After asking how our trip was, she said the following: “And please please please be careful when you are out anywhere that you and friends have gathered! I was shocked and sickened by what went on … Read more