I’m Still Processing Bad News

Posted: 19th October 2017 by Robyn Jane in family
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I got a phone call from my daughter in Seattle this morning. This never fails to cheer me up, but today was different. Her sister—my other daughter—is getting married in April…and I am specifically uninvited.

She and I have not had the best of relationships since her mother and I divorced when she was 16, and it was further complicated when I was outed as transgender. She has found religion, and both she and her fiancée are conservative evangelical Christians. I’m sure you know the kind: the ones who love everyone except those who don’t think exactly the way they do.

So yes, I’m hurt. But I realize it’s her choice, and as much as it pains me to do so, I will honor that choice.

And I realize that today, some 20-odd years later, it’s time to attempt a reconciliation, and that I have to be the one to take the first steps. I certainly don’t want to be in the position I was in with my father who, after almost 10 years of silence, reconciled with me—four days before his death.

Maybe I’m feeling Wordsworth’s Intimations of Immortality:

We will grieve not, rather find
           Strength in what remains behind;
           In the primal sympathy
           Which having been must ever be;
           In the soothing thoughts that spring
           Out of human suffering;
           In the faith that looks through death,
In years that bring the philosophic mind.

Or maybe I’m just feeling my age: I’m 67 years old, and I realize that it’s time to start thinking about end of life care, powers of attorney,

Time for you and time for me,
And time yet for a hundred indecisions,
And for a hundred visions and revisions,
Before the taking of a toast and tea

As Ol’ Possum so eloquently put it.

Indeed, I’m composing this entry over a cup of Earl Grey tea.

Yes, it hurts. But it’s up to me to decide if it’s the pain of growth or the pain of an end.

I choose growth.

Why Do So Many Americans Hate Each Other?

Posted: 13th October 2017 by Robyn Jane in Balkanization, rants, Trump

That was the question on Facebook this morning. This was my answer.

It’s fear, most likely. People don’t understand what’s happening in our country today and so they cling desperately to the idea that nothings wrong. When someone tries to point out what’s essentially cognitive dissonance, they lash out in fear.

Our “modern” educational system, which places standardized testing above actual learning, has made it all but impossible to recognize that our nation’s run as an empire is over. We have an evil buffoon in the White House who is set on destroying the country from within. A man who has sworn to uphold the Constitution and defend it against all enemies, foreign or domestic, is himself the greatest domestic enemy.

Both he and his corporately-owned cronies in Congress will be remembered, if at all, as petty Neros who fiddled while Rome burned.

I recently read a prediction that Trump will be the last Republican president, that his party won’t survive his administration. I predict that he will be the last president period, regardless of political party.

“It’s the end of the world as we know it and I feel fine.”

I’ve Been Using My iPhone All Wrong

Posted: 29th September 2017 by Robyn Jane in iPhones, writing tools
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After nearly a year of owning an iPhone, I’ve finally learned what I’ve been doing wrong.

I discovered this quite by accident when I was researching battery life for the device. I was surprised to learn that Apple recommends not closing an app when you’re finished using it. That’s because iOS has algorithms that minimize battery usage by apps when you’re not actively using them. Closing an app and then later reopening it actually uses more power than just leaving it open. It’s as if you turned off your car at every stoplight: you use more gas restarting it than by letting it idle.

Another serendipitous discovery is that if you leave those apps open when you restart your iPhone, they’ll still be running when you restart it.

And talk about RYFM (Read Your Effing Manual): I struggled for weeks trying to get my phone to ring before Stacey showed me what was wrong: the side switch that used to control screen rotation is now the on-off switch for the sound. Duh!

Finally, some advice for anyone considering buying an iPhone:

  • Insure it from day one. Whether you do it through the dealer or a reputable third-party, it’s worth the cost
  • I also added a glass screen protector
  • Buy a good case or cover
  • Download and READ the manual or user’s guide for both your phone as well as the relevant iOS version
  • Download and install some kind of emergency app. First responders can access your information in case of an emergency. I use one called ICE.
  • Be sure to activate the Find My Phone setting! Settings–>Apple ID–>iCloud–>Find My iPhone
  • And if you’re kinda old like me, don’t get frustrated! You CAN get this!

1000 Words a Day

Posted: 26th September 2017 by Robyn Jane in Blogging, writing
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This morning on Medium I read a piece on the benefits of writing 1,000 words a day. Since I’m lucky to write every day at all, and most of the time only manage to hit 500 words,I decided I’d give it a try.

My favorite takeaway from the article?

This simple daily habit has literally a had a six figure ROI. It’s changed my life and my career.

I’m not writing for a living, and I don’t expect to be any time soon. But it strikes me that all of the advice given in the article makes sense, especially if I have any pretentions of calling myself a writer. (109 words at this point.)

Just when I was beginning to think I’d never make it as a writer, Medium once again pointed me in the right direction with an article entitled “Someone Is Going To Laugh At Your Dreams.”

I don’t believe in fate or coincidences, but I’m starting to wonder about serendipity. Or maybe what Jung called synchronicity.

So maybe—just maybe—someone or something is trying to tell me something.

So I’m going to put on my big-girl panties and get to work. I won’t always be writing on this blog, as I have a few other projects I’m working on, but at least I’ll report back now and then with a progress  report.

Robyn Jane

Why I Won’t Be Buying The iPhone X

Posted: 25th September 2017 by Robyn Jane in Apple, iPhones, writing tools
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Yes, it’s fancy. And yes, it’s beautiful. And yes, I love my iPhone 6S Plus.

But I’m going to give the X (which Apple says to pronounce “10”) a miss. There are a couple of reasons.

First, there’s the iPhone 8 Plus. In every way that’s relevant to me, it’s the same technology as the X…for a few hundred dollars less.

Second—and crucially—the iPhone X uses facial recognition to unlock the device. There is no alternative. The iPhone 8, on the other hand, still gives you the option of logging in with your fingerprint, a password, or a PIN.

Why is this important?

Courts have held that passwords and PINs are intellectual property. That means that you own them. Law enforcement officers (LEOs) cannot make you divulge them without a warrant, nor can they make you use them to log in without a warrant.

Fingerprints and faces, however, are not your property, plus they fall under the “plain sight” exception to any warrant requirement. In other words, if a LEO asks you to log on to your phone by looking at it or just touching it, you have no legal right to refuse.

And that, my friends, is something that may not have occurred to Apple.

Also, Samsung’s facial recognition on their new flagship smartphone has been shown to be fooled by a photograph of the owner’s face!

So yes, as soon as I pay off some bills and save some money, I definitely will upgrade to the iPhone 8 Plus. My only remaining decision will be 64 Gb or 256 Gb. My iPhone 6S Plus has 16 Gb. I wanted to save money, but it was a mistake. I should have gone with 32 Gb.